2 Sam 1:19b (NIV) "How the mighty have fallen!"
If greater men than ourselves, like Adam, Saul, David, Solomon, Judas, Peter, A.A. Allan, Jim Baker, Jimmy Swaggart, etc, etc, etc, all fell, then we need to take every precaution that it doesn't happen to us.
1 Cor 10:12 (NAS) Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall.
I think I'm standing strong, therefore I better take heed lest I fall.
Because greater men of God than myself have fallen, I choose to make myself accountable.
Every man of God needs a spiritually mature, close, trustworthy and loyal friend; someone that believes in them and really cares; someone that can speak into their life; someone who won't even repeat his friends secrets to his spouse. We need someone who understands we all have feet of clay. We need a man of God we can go to and share our heart with in confidence, knowing we will not be betrayed, but loved, prayed for, counseled, helped and supported.
With such a Covenant Partner, that we have taken the time to build a strong relationship with, we need to ask each other the following questions at the beginning of every month.
NB. Your friend needs to be a peer who is not afraid that speaking the truth into your life will jeopardize your relationship. Some men of God surround themselves with "Yes" men, afraid to speak the truth. That's a mockery of accountability.
NB. Remember in choosing the right friend, that a person who talks to you about others all the time, will almost certainly be talking about you to others. Some people can't help themselves; they have no "Zip Lip" self control. Scandal comprises a sizable percentage of their conversation. Avoid such men as these.
1. Are you in prayer and the Word?
2a. Have you honored your vow to your wife - to love, nourish and cherish her as Christ does the church?
2b. Have you honored your vow to your husband - to respect and submit to him as the church is subject to Christ?
3. Are you providing spiritual leadership for your family?
4. Are you in harmony with your spouse?
5. Are you in conflict with anyone?
6. Have you looked at any ography?
7. Have you stolen anything?
8. Have you lied to anyone?
9. Have you kept your commitments?
10. Are you taking care of your body?
11. What are you doing to show love and appreciation to those who work for you?
12. Are you in your assignment?
13. What are you struggling with now?
14. How can I help you in your weakest area?
15. Have you been completely honest with me?
I do not want to let God, my family, or my friend down.
If you knew these questions were going to be asked of you every month, by someone you loved, respected and did not want to let down (as unto the Lord), then these questions will become a hedge of protection about you, empowering you to habitually say 'NO' to every temptation to sin.